They say if you want to lose weight, quit smoking, or run a marathon the best way to fully commit is to publicly announce your intentions. That way you are doubly motivated- both for the goal itself and because you don't want to lose face. And you are supposed to get support from the people you tell. Anyway, Here is my public announcement-
I will never again attend a LLL meeting.
Now I consider myself pretty pro-breastfeeding. My weaned children got at least 2.5 years. No one ever had formula. I've been nursing the babies for 21 months now. But the LLL meetings are so depressing and I always leave feeling like the worst mother in the world. Being a parent can be so isolating, which makes no sense, since I'm always around other parents. But no one will let their guard down at a LLL meeting. Until I come along anyway!
They all need to one up the other. "My baby nurses all night long but I'm never tired." "My son is 18 months and has never tasted solid food but I don't mind. Why have children if you can't feed them properly?" "My kiddo is 4years 4 months but I'm not going to rush him into toilet learning. He'll learn when he is ready." "My baby is 4 months old and is fully in control of his elimination but it was his choice. He's never worn a diaper in his life."
Well, my kids are 21 months and I'm tired. They wear disposable diapers and eat more junk than I'd like to admit. I yell sometimes. They don't bathe as much as they should and neither do I. Sometimes they fight. Sometimes they are so incredibly compassionate I can barely stand it. Sometimes we just play outside (or inside) when we should be doing school work. They know they are loved. They know they have some responsibilities in this world. And shouldn't this be good enough?
I'm not sure why we have to pretend parenting is the easiest, most rewarding job around. Kids don't appreciate much, that is their nature. But why can't we admit it to other moms who should "get it." So don't go looking for me 'cause I won't be there. I'll be home. Tired, grubby and (mostly) content nursing my mismatched kids.